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How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “you’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.

Posted 9 hours ago
Date someone who is interested in you. I don’t mean someone who thinks you’re cute or funny. I mean someone who wants to know every insignificant detail about you. Someone who wants to read every word you write. Someone who wants hear every note of your favourite song, and watch every scene of your favourite movie. Someone wants to find every scar upon your body, and learn where each one came from. Someone who wants to know your favourite brand of toothpaste, and which quotes resonate deep inside your bones when you hear them. There is a difference between attraction and interest. Find the person who wants to learn every aspect of who you are, and hold onto them.
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teastorm:

it’s hoooooooooooooooooot in tooooopppeeekkaaaaa. 

i don’t know why this just popped into my head.

Posted 12 hours ago
A 10 year old girl asked me what it was like to be a woman. I laughed and replied “beautiful and elegant and everything you could dream of” but what I wanted to say was “it’s a curse. You will work and work and the greatest thing you will ever achieve is being called pretty by some man who doesn’t know that classical music is your passion, and that you like writing at 3 AM. You will be smart but never be to smart. For being a woman and being to smart is a trap. You will scare men. And scaring man is the worst thing you can do. Also, no matter how high you climb and how hard you work your salary will always be less than the man working beside you. Don’t question it, don’t raise your voice or you will be seen as a feminist, which don’t you know is the worst thing you can be? And my darling, when a man catcalls you or speaks sexually to you, you are expected to feel lucky that a man would give you that kind of attention no matter how uncomfortable you might feel. And God forbid this ever happen, but if you are to get forced into sexual acts, your clothes or how much you drank will always speak louder then you screaming no. Being a woman is a tragedy that we are born into. Men will be asked about their achievements, you will be asked about the children. I hope the world changes for you my dear, but if it doesn’t, please don’t let the world stifle your brilliant, creative mind. Speak loudly, be to smart, say no, call men out, do not allow yourself to be a piece in their game. Do not bite your tongue until you taste blood. Let your words fly. Wear what you want, be what you want, and be your own. You are yours and no one one else’s. Understand that. You belong to no one but yourself. And if anyone tries to make you think differently, tell them to shove it” but her smile was pure and her eyes were innocent and they sparkled with her hopes and dreams of the future. What a heartbreak we face growing up as women in today’s society. But we must fight. And never stop. We may not win all the battles, but we can win the war.
I’m a feminist and I’m not ashamed. (via brennanat)
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digbicks:

Art Appreciation. 

  1. Sonya & Orest for DressCode Magazine (September 2010), Valeria Lazareva
  2. Untitled, Joshua Foster. On Tumblr
  3. Le Louvre et ses visiteurs, Alécio de Andrade
  4. Favourite Place, Hannah & Landon Metz
  5. Art Appreciation, Chuck Burgess
  6. Boston (Summer 1972), Nick DeWolf
  7. Museo del Prado, Madrid (1995), Elliott Erwitt
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if ur sad do not fear friend i am sending puppies to help u

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Sarah & Nathan - Springfield, MO | Christian Gideon Photography

Oh my goodness that DRESS

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Street views of Europe pt 1
Paris, Annecy, Lyon, Rome, Verona, Venice, Burano, Vienna, Budapest

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